Monday, December 27, 2010

I think I'm learning

So as you all probably have come to know i have a bad bad habit of finding friends who are needy and use me.

I know i do it, I don't mean too. but I do.

So I made a friend down here. She lives on base and is in my unit. I think i've talked about her before.

Anways. to the point of this post...

We have been dieting, working out, and basically spending a lot of time together. I invited her, her husband, and her daughter over for christmas dinner several weeks ago. She said she'd come and even offered to bring over green bean casserole.

So christmas keeps coming closer and we're shopping for food. I buy a 14lb turkey to feed us 5 (and have extra in case bri had a couple coworkers who wanted to come). I buy all the fixens as well. the only thing she had to do was do what she said, and show up. We kept talking about how happy I am that they are coming because it is my first holiday with out my family. Christmas is always a big holiday with my family so I would really enjoy the company to ease the blow a bit, you know?

Christmas eve I text her to tell her about what time we'll eat. She texts me back at 8pm on christmas eve saying she's not coming because her husband doesn't want to.

I was SO upset. B was mad. He actually told me to not bring her around for a long time because he won't be able to filter his feelings.

I know that this is setting a presidence for future behavior in this relationship. and i'm just ducking out now.

I have to be friendly with her because we're on the booster club together and we're in the same unit. but i'm just done with friendships like this.

my feelings are still really hurt. I know i'm probably going a little over board, but I just can't take on another needy and use-y friend



Open and Shut Case said...

i definitely think what she did was crappy and rude to boot. however, while i am NOT defending her, i'm just saying maybe something went on behind closed doors that you dont know about. maybe she had an epic marital fight, maybe her husband is controlling or cruel. you just never know. i'm sorry you were disappointed. it sucks to have friends that take and take but never give.